I have literally never felt as horrible and as sick to my stomach as I do at this very moment. Tonight I had to give some parents of mine (daycare parents) their 2 week notice. I can't get into the details but because I could no longer retain an aid.. well that's not completely true I just can't depend on them to show up and not be over on my numbers if they do not.
Its soo complicated its nuts however basically the state is bulling me into having to let go of two kiddos I have had for 2.5 years. Their some of my favorites and I love their parents and all we've done for one another more than anything in this world. Not to mention the little kiddos I've grown soo attached to its crazy. Their kiddos are like my kids brother and sister.
Anyways, tonight I had to ask them to leave in two weeks. It boils down to not having an assistant anymore and needing to cut back on my numbers because I will no longer have an assistant. As well as if I care for these kiddos when they need it as of may.. until 7pm in the evening and on every other weekend. I can have no friends or family come over who have a past the state does not like. Which is like everyone in my family... lol.. and a ton of my friends. As, well there's very few people in this world whom have never been in trouble.
Anyways, it very much so boils down to watching these kids or continuing to would mean the end of my life as I know it. I feel horrible. I feel like I have let them down.. good friends as well as their kids.
Everything about the state just pisses me off right now. They want to control my life even on non-daycare hours and who is or is not allowed in my home. Which makes no sense to me what so ever if I'm not operating at that time. This case is just different. I've never had to ask anyone to leave much less kiddos I loved and have had for so long. Just rahter pissed off as a whole.
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Tuesday, April 6, 2010
It takes a village
They say it takes a village to raise a child. I couldn't agree more with those words of wisdom. When Taylor was younger I often found myself looking to others for guidance, encouragement, wisdom and so forth.
However, today it hit me in the face like a 50 pound brick. I am everyone's village. I get calls of all times of the day and night asking for help or guidance or favors. This I really don't mind. I enjoy helping others really I do. Sometimes though i feel like I know people who depend on the village not for assistance but as the primary caregiver of their children.
I run a daycare. I care for others children all day and all night 7 days a week. I know what I'm doing for the most part with kids...well everyone's but my own...lol. However, when it comes down to little things...a child says something...completely inappropriate and instead of the parent (who's mind you standing right there) saying something they look at me. It's not even a look of what should I do...hmm as I've already had that convo a billion times. It's a look almost like...hmm.. ok say your in wal-mart and someones child is just being a complete brat..you give them the look...the look that says its your child do something about them. That's the look I get from people I know. I want to scream "It's not my child" or in some cases "My time is up as the caregiver its 5pm...DO YOUR JOB!" However, I don't I handle it. Maybe, it's wrong but on the other hand a child who learns they can get away with something will test it to all extremes...and that's not something I accept well in my house.
So, here's my pondering thought this evening. Women work I get this, I work. Their children attend daycare. The daycare provider should play a role in helping raise the child int he ways they should know. Check got that too. What I don't understand is how they only have their children like say 15 hours mon-fri. when their awake and like to appear and act as though their just as overwhelmed as I am. I mean really! I know work and life in general is stressful but how parents assume I need to say and do it all is beyond me when their right there. Don't get me wrong being a mom even if its only for 15 hours can be stressful...BUT COME ON PEOPLE! Now, to be fair I have friends who don't work who also depend on me. However, the dependency for advice or help is much less then those who pay me weekly to do so. Those who pay me seem to think my on the clock never runs out.
Now, I feel its only appropriate to state that I love helping people. I don't mind going to see if a split open head needs stitches, talking to a child to get them to take medicine they refuse to take, talking to a child on the phone because their full time mom is soo frazzled from the days events and just wants a break and need them to go to bed, helping a child going through emotional issues...these things I get and am always there to help. However, you child just being a terror and you doing nothing about it because your exhausted...hmmm get a grip and take care of it yourself. I do it 7 days a week for 12 kids!
What's worse to me is when I decide to step aside and let a parent handle the situation I get a comment. "Oh do u let them do this here?" OMG! I answer politely that I do not and what I do, however I'm thinking in my head most of the time...they don't do that when their just with me cause they know it won't fly in this here village. I think it's hard for people to understand my want to help them is great however, i don't always have the answers or the solutions, i hear prolly 10 mothers vent their days events and stresses daily and sometimes i just can't hear it anymore and have nothing new to offer them in the area of advice or sympathy. I feel like I'm in over my head most days with the stuff people ask of me when I know they'd never hold themselves ot the same standards.
LOL I'm just another mom/woman learning as I go people, I help when I can but when I can't or just don't want to please understand. Sometimes I just wish people weren't so selfish and thoughtless and thought...geez...I wonder if she's tired or needs a break or just that she doesn't always want to play mom to all the children who aren't her own. God know I love children and esp. all those I have here but sometimes I feel like the expectations put on me are higher then that on the parents themselves!
A bit of a vent tonight...lol bare with me!
However, today it hit me in the face like a 50 pound brick. I am everyone's village. I get calls of all times of the day and night asking for help or guidance or favors. This I really don't mind. I enjoy helping others really I do. Sometimes though i feel like I know people who depend on the village not for assistance but as the primary caregiver of their children.
I run a daycare. I care for others children all day and all night 7 days a week. I know what I'm doing for the most part with kids...well everyone's but my own...lol. However, when it comes down to little things...a child says something...completely inappropriate and instead of the parent (who's mind you standing right there) saying something they look at me. It's not even a look of what should I do...hmm as I've already had that convo a billion times. It's a look almost like...hmm.. ok say your in wal-mart and someones child is just being a complete brat..you give them the look...the look that says its your child do something about them. That's the look I get from people I know. I want to scream "It's not my child" or in some cases "My time is up as the caregiver its 5pm...DO YOUR JOB!" However, I don't I handle it. Maybe, it's wrong but on the other hand a child who learns they can get away with something will test it to all extremes...and that's not something I accept well in my house.
So, here's my pondering thought this evening. Women work I get this, I work. Their children attend daycare. The daycare provider should play a role in helping raise the child int he ways they should know. Check got that too. What I don't understand is how they only have their children like say 15 hours mon-fri. when their awake and like to appear and act as though their just as overwhelmed as I am. I mean really! I know work and life in general is stressful but how parents assume I need to say and do it all is beyond me when their right there. Don't get me wrong being a mom even if its only for 15 hours can be stressful...BUT COME ON PEOPLE! Now, to be fair I have friends who don't work who also depend on me. However, the dependency for advice or help is much less then those who pay me weekly to do so. Those who pay me seem to think my on the clock never runs out.
Now, I feel its only appropriate to state that I love helping people. I don't mind going to see if a split open head needs stitches, talking to a child to get them to take medicine they refuse to take, talking to a child on the phone because their full time mom is soo frazzled from the days events and just wants a break and need them to go to bed, helping a child going through emotional issues...these things I get and am always there to help. However, you child just being a terror and you doing nothing about it because your exhausted...hmmm get a grip and take care of it yourself. I do it 7 days a week for 12 kids!
What's worse to me is when I decide to step aside and let a parent handle the situation I get a comment. "Oh do u let them do this here?" OMG! I answer politely that I do not and what I do, however I'm thinking in my head most of the time...they don't do that when their just with me cause they know it won't fly in this here village. I think it's hard for people to understand my want to help them is great however, i don't always have the answers or the solutions, i hear prolly 10 mothers vent their days events and stresses daily and sometimes i just can't hear it anymore and have nothing new to offer them in the area of advice or sympathy. I feel like I'm in over my head most days with the stuff people ask of me when I know they'd never hold themselves ot the same standards.
LOL I'm just another mom/woman learning as I go people, I help when I can but when I can't or just don't want to please understand. Sometimes I just wish people weren't so selfish and thoughtless and thought...geez...I wonder if she's tired or needs a break or just that she doesn't always want to play mom to all the children who aren't her own. God know I love children and esp. all those I have here but sometimes I feel like the expectations put on me are higher then that on the parents themselves!
A bit of a vent tonight...lol bare with me!
Sunday, January 11, 2009
The inevitable question- How Come?
How come 2 weeks ago I was soo sick....like on the death bed kinda sick. You fellow moms know what this feels like. To be sick and yet the home still needs to be ran. Well for me I also have other peoples children in my home 24 hrs a day. So, my clock never stops.
But, how come when I was sick, I rec. no sympathy from parents or the hubby...HOW COME!! Everyone just considered me to need to stay on the ball. I stil needed to cook, clean, teach, pick up, drop off, wake up everything just the same.....hmmmm
Now how come this week the hubby was sick....every parents asked repeatedly about how he was doing...hahahaha, even gave adive on meds and such. How come he was able to lock himself in a room for 4 days only come out when he needed me for something...how in the heck come.
I swear I just dont get it...I mean I realize I am super woman...lol...but all jokes aside...how come when a woman much less a mom gets sick...no one seems to care....its like everyother day...but now when a man gets sick the world quits spinning for him. I have had many older gals...gosh I love their wisdom tell me..."hmmm hun thats just the way it is really...men are wimps" Hahahahah soo funny...but what does a gal have to do to get someone to pick up some of the slack when shes down and out....
It just seems that moms in general are seen doing it all-----all the time---because after all we're super heros---I mean we do more then many men can accomplish in a week in one day...but we're seen as like this rock....that unless bedded in a hosital stays strong no matter what. While I embrace this thought I also would have loved and pleaded for someone to tell me to go to bed for 4 days....lol
Ok, so don't get me wrong ladies...I'm in no way upset...i just find this somewhat humorous and aww inspiring...we are the Rocks that hold our families together and it's great knowing this...but every now and then a rock just needs a break...lol
But, how come when I was sick, I rec. no sympathy from parents or the hubby...HOW COME!! Everyone just considered me to need to stay on the ball. I stil needed to cook, clean, teach, pick up, drop off, wake up everything just the same.....hmmmm
Now how come this week the hubby was sick....every parents asked repeatedly about how he was doing...hahahaha, even gave adive on meds and such. How come he was able to lock himself in a room for 4 days only come out when he needed me for something...how in the heck come.
I swear I just dont get it...I mean I realize I am super woman...lol...but all jokes aside...how come when a woman much less a mom gets sick...no one seems to care....its like everyother day...but now when a man gets sick the world quits spinning for him. I have had many older gals...gosh I love their wisdom tell me..."hmmm hun thats just the way it is really...men are wimps" Hahahahah soo funny...but what does a gal have to do to get someone to pick up some of the slack when shes down and out....
It just seems that moms in general are seen doing it all-----all the time---because after all we're super heros---I mean we do more then many men can accomplish in a week in one day...but we're seen as like this rock....that unless bedded in a hosital stays strong no matter what. While I embrace this thought I also would have loved and pleaded for someone to tell me to go to bed for 4 days....lol
Ok, so don't get me wrong ladies...I'm in no way upset...i just find this somewhat humorous and aww inspiring...we are the Rocks that hold our families together and it's great knowing this...but every now and then a rock just needs a break...lol
Monday, September 29, 2008
Something for the moms of preschoolers
So, thought I would post something that may be used by many of you sahm with preschoolers...or anyone who enjoys doing fun learning activities with their kids.I run a preschool with 12 chilredn and all of the below information has proven very beneficial to me and its all FREE and PRINATBLE!
Here's a great link to create your own tracing worksheets. These are great sites cause you can let them pratice writing anything you like...like their name, number or fun words!
- Ok here's a great duck tracing worksheet plus more
http://www.learning%20treasures.%20com/duck_%20math.htm
- Great fisher price site for coloring sheets for their favorite characters:
- Great fisher price site for coloring sheets for their favorite characters:
-Great site for older kids- Its for finding and connecting penpals from all around the world
--If anyone is interested I also have a great cookbook thats called cooking through the abc's and it has a recipe to do that simple and fun for kids for each letter of the alphabet. Just let me know your email and I can email it to you.
Below are a large number of great sites for finding activities and FREE printables for your preschool to school age child.
I have so much more to share in the future if I get some good feedback and a need for other great worksheets and sites and activities...and the best part is everything I offer or show you to is FREE!!! Which I know we can all use great free things to help our children learn and have fun.
Remember I also have some items that are hard to attach on here...but if you shoot me an email and let me know a theme or something you are looking for then I am more than happy to help out. I have alittle over 300 themes....so I have alot and have access to lots of ladies who are always willing to help out on something I may be looking for.
Lacey
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